Damn, that sucks. Sorry for giving you wrong advice. Yes it could be one of the smaller sound card connectors, they usually have a white socket around them, but apparently not here. Can you return the cable?
The sound card connector should be 2mm hole pitch. Use a ruler to measure the distance between the 4 pins on your motherboard, it should be 6mm from the center of the 1st pin to the center of the 4th pin.
Edit: The manual lists the connector's pin assignment as L-G-G-R, which corresponds to MPC. But the sound card connector would be O-L-G-R, so this can't be it. Also, it has a protuding plastic edge that is supposed to go into the white socket, but as your board does not have the socket, it would probably not be able to go all the way in. Seems that this is not the right type of connector either.