Some will find recapping much more challenging than others. Especially if you have clumsiness in your genes / are slow learner.
There's really a lot of variables, the soldering iron you have, the temperature, the tip shape and size, on which spot you're applying the heat, how long you're applying it etc.
I recently managed to replace capacitors on the old router, took me forever to get old ones out, burned good chunk of solder mask off near the first and second one I attempted, some less with the last two. What worked in the end was applying some fresh solder, heating up the area well (I apparently failed countlessly at this step) and get the solder out with desoldering pump (the manual one, nothing fancy).
Getting new ones in was a bit easier, but, I was working with lead-free solder with a bit of flux mixed in. It melts at higher temperature, supposedly less nasty than lead-based one, but the flux is still nasty...seriously, those fumes are disgusting, put the fan where you work or at least wear a mask. I'd give myself a score of about 50%, oddly, the first joint I made was the nicest looking, although much bulkier than original, but the shape resembled the ideal joint. Solder is a naughty bastard, it loves going where it's not supposed to.
I didn't get the working router in the end, it has problems beyond bad caps, but at least I can say I can sort of (de)solder at the very basic level.
Is it common for bad caps on motherboards to actually not blow anything else in the process of going bad?
Anyway, if I could go back, I would watch and LISTEN to these before experimenting on my own, I previously just watched some other videos that didn't mention some important details, that and I probably got to it a bit too enthusiastically and headlessly:
Collin's Lab: Soldering
Collin’s Lab: Desoldering
Soldering Crash Course: Basic Techniques, Tips and Advice!
Also, it's probably a good idea to get some board to practice on.